This all reminds me of a story of R’ Levik of Berditchev, that a bochur came to him and said that he needed a tikkun because he slept with his girlfriend. But, the bochur said, I made sure that she went to mikve first, and we waited seven days. R’ levik said, sorry, no tikkun for you. But why, the bochur wanted to know, I didn’t sin too badly! The great rabbi answered, listen, I understand if someone has a great passion and they sin; but to plan it for a whole week, and try and make it as “pure” as possible? That I can’t help.